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January 2009 
What would you like to celebrate?
Posted on Jan 6th, 2009
by 
Alice
Alice
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for January 06, 2009:
...making-up with the man I love (for having had a very unfortunate day on the 2nd of January) so I can give him up with a clear conscience
...life = the fact that I would love to have another child after all...
...life = that my children have become responsible individuals which will soon allow me to follow more of a life of my own again
...life by having my dearest friends come to celebrate my upcoming birthday with me
...WANTING to face it all... for there will be many challenges this year and I´ve already cried out my eyes more than once within the past days.
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This is really unique.
You want to make up with the man you love so that you can give him up with a clear conscience.
This makes me wonder why you want to give him up if you love him. Perhaps, you love him enough to know that the two of you wouldn’t make a very good match in the long-run?
The fact that you want to make up with him indicates that there has been some kind of disagreement with hurtful words said.
Do you want to continue to keep this man as a friend but just not one who is a sweetheart? There are some people who have actually been married to someone, and the two of them end up really getting along after their divorce is final.
It’s as if they’ve fit themselves into a role (married couple) that didn’t quite feel right to them and that being platonic friends is the more natural fit for their relationship. Perhaps, they had gotten caught up in some kind of a flow that was encouraged by their friends. They were more in love with the idea of being married than of being married to each other.
It’s like Steve & Fran and Mary & Massimo might have ended up in The Wedding Planner had they not put on the brakes before they made a mistake. In the case of the latter, Mary’s father put on the brakes after realizing that his daughter wouldn’t have been fully happy and in love in this marriage he had arranged for her.
I hope that things work out for you and your sweetheart to where you can at least remain friends.
You seem to be getting to a milestone with the celebration of your upcoming birthday and are celebrating this new year by really getting in touch with your feelings and deciding what YOU want to do with the rest of your life instead of having it decided by the flow of family, friends, and other societal expectations.
Happy New Year, Happy Birthday, & Happy Future!!!
“what if all god really wanted for us was to be happy?” Richard Bach
Are you wanting to make up with him to make it easier for you? or for him? And if it must be, does it matter?
I hope you find peace my friend. Happy Birthday.
love and hugs